When Marriage Communications Break Down

If you find you aren't able to talk to your spouse about your life, their life, or what is going on in your home, you could be headed for a lot of trouble in your marriage.

When we first start dating there seemed to be no end to what we could talk about, but after marriage we begin to assume that a comfortable silence is what makes a marriage a good one. However, this is not the case. You have to have good marriage communications if you are going to stay married forever. The fact is, even the uncomfortable talks that may end in fights are better than not talking to each other at all. This is where the 'kiss and make up' part comes in! If you are having trouble talking, you have to break through and find a way to reach each other.

Often, couples feel so comfortable with each other they forget that marriage is more than just living together. Couples have to think of marriage as a living, breathing thing that needs attention and care. If a marriage is left to chance, it rarely survives. Marriage communications can break down very easily, and when that happens, the spark can begin to go out of the relationship. Couples often miss this fact, and before they know it, they're more like roommates than a married, committed couple!

If there is no communication within the relationship, a couple is tempted to turn to others to fulfill their emotional needs. This could be friends or family, or someone like a new friend of the opposite sex, or even someone at work. Left unattended, the emotional needs can turn into physical ones and this all too often ends in divorce. Emotional affairs can often lead to physical affairs, and either or both can destroy a marriage. The person each should depend on for both emotional and physical support should be the spouse, not someone outside the marriage.

If marriage communications continue to fail, resentments and issues begin to build. There will always be differences that must be worked out. After all, you are still an individual, but you are now two striving to be as one! If differences are not dealt with, an explosion is bound to happen. Add that to each spouse finding emotional support somewhere else and it is easy to see why the breakdown of marriage communications can lead to divorce, often before a couple even realizes that they are having a problem to begin with.

When the marriage communications are not what you think they should be in your union, you have to find a way to reconnect with your spouse. Talk to them about how you feel and then come up with some solutions. Couples therapy is always an option if one or both are already feeling as if the marriage may be beyond saving. Any marriage based on love and honor can be saved, even if the couple has drifted apart. They only need the chance to rediscover each other. Sometimes, the lessons learned when this happens can make for a stronger, more fulfilling and long lasting marriage in the end.